Body language is a big part of your feminine image. In fact, it counts for over 50% of the impression you make on people.

Is your body language telling the world that you’re a fabulous female? In not, it can be fixed!

Body language consists of:

• Posture
• Gestures
• Facial expressions
• Eye contact

Here are 5 dos and don’ts for mastering confident, feminine body language:

1. DO work the S-curve

Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.

Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.

Here are some tips for working the S-curve:

• DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.

• DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.

• DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.

2. DON’T take up too much space

A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.

On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.

You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)

Here are some additional tips:

• DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.

• DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.

3. DO mind your gestures

Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.

To master fluid, feminine gestures:

• DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.

• DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.

• DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.

4. DON’T forget your facial expressions

The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.

Tips to keep in mind:

• DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)

• DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!

5. DO make alluring eye contact

Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.

Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:

• DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who are you are and look people in the eye.

• DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)

Let’s talk body language!

Body language is a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. Let’s continue the conversation below!

What other subtle body language differences have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?

Please share in the comments below!

Love,
Lucille

P.S. Want to learn more about how to to master your feminine presentation? Sign up for my free 3-part Male to Female Makeover Course here!

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Being a girl comes with some pretty great perks… high heels, lipstick, lingerie – and bras in particular.

Bras offer endless options for expressing your femininity. And that’s where things get tricky! With so many sizes and styles available (and “rules” for bra wear and care), it’s easy to go wrong.

Do you know what to do and what not to do when it comes to bras? Read on for 6 dos and don’ts of wearing a bra!

1. DO wear the right size

Did you know that there’s an 80% chance you’re wearing the wrong size bra? A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and unflattering. Who needs that?

Bra sizing is complicated, so it’s best to be professional fitted. (Most shops are happy to provide this service to their crossdressing and transgender clientele.) Otherwise, check out my previous article on how to find your bra size.

2. DON’T let back bulge ruin your look

One of the dreaded side effects of wearing a bra is back bulge. This is especially common if you carry extra weight in your upper body. Here are 3 tips for beating back bulge:

• Wear a larger band size. A band that’s too tight will cause bulging, so go up a size. For example, from a size 42 to a size 44 band.

• Look for a bra with extra stretch. Bras made with smooth, stretchy fabrics don’t dig in as much as stiffer bras.

• Try a longline bra. Longline bras have a wider band that extends down the torso to help eliminate back bulge.

3. DO choose the right style

While choosing right size bra is important, so too is the style. The options are nearly endless! Some of the style details to consider include:

• Padded vs. unpadded

• Underwire vs. wireless

• Cut of the bra cups (low cut, full cut, balconette, etc.)

• Front clasp vs. back clasp

• Straps (strapless, racerback, convertible, etc.)

• Fabric (cotton, satin, lace, etc.)

• Color

Which style is best depends on what you’ll be wearing – as well as your natural breast shape and body type. For a breakdown of suitable styles, see my article on the Top 5 Bra Styles Every Crossdresser and MTF Transgender Woman Should Own.

4. DON’T be boring

While you should definitely own some basic bras, why stop there? Bras offer endless options for expressing your style, so have fun and experiment with different colors, fabrics, and trimmings! Just be sure these details don’t show through your clothes.

5. DON’T ruin your bra in the wash

Bras are delicate object, so they need to be properly cared for. You can’t simply toss your bra in the wash with the rest of your clothes! Here are some tips to ensure your bra stays in good shape for as long as possible:

• Handwash your bra if possible. This is the best way to extend the life of your bra.

• Use a bra wash bag. This keeps the hooks from snagging and prevents your bra from getting tangled in the washing machine.

• Air dry your bra. Bras should never be put in the dryer, so hang them to dry instead.

6. DO replace your bra when it’s time

If you take care of your bra, it should last a good while. However, keep in mind that bras do have a limited life span. (An average of 6-12 months if you wear it regularly.) Here are signs your bra needs to be replaced:

• The bra straps are stretched out.

• The bra no longer fits properly. (Remember that your breast and chest size can fluctuate with hormones or weight loss/gain.)

• The bra has lost its shape.

• The bra feels uncomfortable.

Bras! We just can’t get enough

Now that’s we’ve got the dos and don’ts worked out, the only thing left to do is enjoy your beautiful bra… And maybe go out buy some news ones!

Shoes, lipstick, and bras are 3 things I can’t get enough of!

What about you? How many bras do you own? Are you a basic one-bra kinda gal? Or do you have a bra to match your every mood?

Take my poll and tell me about your favorite bra below!

Love,
Lucille

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