What would you do if you had NO FEAR?

• Would you plan a fabulous femme outing?
• Would you share your feminine side with somebody important?
• Would you live as a woman full time, haters be damned?

We often have a million reasons why we can’t do something – whether it’s our age, our family obligations, or a lack of money – but the truth is, it usually boils down to FEAR.

Are you ready to be fearless? Here are my best tips for conquering your fear so you can express yourself as the fab female you truly are.

1. Accept your fear

What you resist persists. But when you accept your fear, it has a funny way of dissipating.

The thing is, our minds are wired to help us survive. Whenever you face an unknown situation – or risk facing disapproval from others – the default response is fear.

Accepting your fear as a built-in biological response also helps you realize that your fear is NOT a sign that you are weak or that you are NOT supposed to do something. (Note: I am not suggesting that you ignore fear when it comes to your physical safety. You should obviously use common sense when putting yourself out there.)

2. Replace your fear thoughts

Have you ever been afraid something terrible would happen … only it never happened? That’s because most fear comes from your thinking, not the reality of the situation.

It is not possible to think two thoughts at one – therefore, if you think a positive thought, it is literally impossible to think a negative or fearful thought at the same time.

Drowning out your fear thoughts with soothing thoughts can go a long way in helping you deal with your fear. Here are some thoughts to try:

• I deserve this.
• I’ve done harder things before.
• I am stronger than my fear.

3. Feel the fear and do it anyway

There is a book out there called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. I highly recommend you read the book, but the title alone is a great motto to live by.

The premise of the book is that the only way to get over a particular fear is to face your fear and DO IT. Then there is no longer anything to be afraid of! What a concept, huh?

Have you ever noticed that the more you avoid doing something, the scarier it seems? Avoiding something doesn’t make the fear go away … it only builds anticipation, which is usually worse than the actual event.

The more you face your fears and take action in spite of them, the stronger and more confident you become.

So what would YOU do if you had no fear? Are you willing to take one small step in that direction? As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below!

Love,
Lucille

P.S. I am going to be facing one of MY biggest fears ever by going SKYDIVING this month – eeek! Any girls here make the big leap? I’d love to hear any tips or words of encouragement you might have.

Femme Secrets

Clothes are a big part of expressing yourself as a woman – but it’s something a lot of girls struggle with (including genetic girls).

Do you sometimes feel like a participant on the TV show, What Not to Wear? Is putting outfits together a mystery to you?

Just follow this simple 5-step formula and I promise you’ll never look like a transgender fashion “don’t” again!

1. Start with a basic piece

The foundation for your outfit should be a basic piece in a neutral color. Examples of basic pieces include: a classic a-line skirt, solid black pants, or a jacket in a neutral color.

2. Add an interest piece

The next step is to add an interest piece that will make your outfit POP. This should be something with color, pattern, texture, or shine.

Yes, you can pair basic pieces and neutral colors together, but that’s boring! You’ll look so much younger, prettier, and more feminine if you incorporate something fun or colorful into your outfit. Examples of interest pieces include: a lace top, a brightly colored dress, or a floral skirt.

3. Choose your shoes

Shoes make or break your outfit, so choose wisely. A pair of hot heels can make a basic outfit nightclub-worthy, while the wrong shoes can make you look frumpy and outdated no matter how cute the rest of your outfit is.

Here are 2 rules for choosing shoes:

• Consider the occasion. Formal events call for heels and shiny, sparkly styles. Casual events call for flats and casual styles.

• Consider the color. Neutral colors like brown or black always work, but don’t be afraid to play with color. A pair of beautiful shoes in an unexpected color can raise you to the fashionista level.

One tip: If you’re wearing a bright color, don’t match your shoes exactly to your outfit. It tends to look clownish. Instead, try a related accent color for an edgier look.

4. Add accessories

The next step is to add accessories, including jewelry, scarves, belts, hosiery, sunglasses, etc. Have some fun with this!

My only rule for crossdressers and transgender women is to go for bold accessories that match your larger features. Big earrings, large bracelets, and statement necklaces work better for your proportions than dainty pieces.

5. Finish with a handbag

The final step is to finish your outfit with a handbag. Here are 2 things to consider:

• Consider the occasion. If it’s a formal event, go for a clutch or a structured handbag. If it’s a casual event, go for a slouchy bag in a casual fabric like leather, suede, or canvas. (The more structured the handbag, the dressier it looks.)

• Consider the color. Neutral colors will give you the most mileage, but brightly colored handbags are very “in” right now. Don’t worry about the old rule about matching your bag to your shoes – it doesn’t apply anymore.

And there you go! A perfect outfit.

Love,
Lucille… Lucille is the author of Flat To Fem Breast Enlargement Program.