Happy New Year, girlfriend!

Have you thought about how you want to honor and express your femininity this year?

It’s not too late to give your femme self a fresh start!

I’d love to know what your resolutions are, so please share them with me in the comments below.

Not sure what to focus on?

Here are 10 male to female resolutions worth trying in 2016:

1. Improve your feminine voice

Achieving a feminine voice is a great goal for the new year. Check out Kathe Perez’s YouTube channel for some free resources to get you started.

2. Train your waist

Who doesn’t want a smaller waist, flatter tummy, and better posture? Done properly, waist training offers a lot of benefits. The Lingerie Addict has a great guide on the basics of waist training here.

3. Meet new people

It’s important to have people in your life who support you. If you lack this, make an effort to get out and meet new people. Thankfully, there are lots of crossdressing and transgender support groups, Meetups, and conferences out there these days.

4. Stop overeating

Maintaining your weight is a big part of looking your best as a woman. It’s not just WHAT you eat, but how much. Here are 6 ways to stop overeating.

5. Be more polite

Women tend to be more polite than men, so improving your manners is an simple way to be more feminine. It also makes you more attractive in general! Here are the 10 habits of remarkably polite people.

6. Learn how to dance

Dancing isn’t just a great workout… It’s also one of the best ways to develop more fluid and feminine body movements. Here are some beginner dance workouts you can do at home:

• Luscious: The Belly Dance Workout for Beginners
• The Exotic Dance Workout
• Sexy Salsa: Solo Moves for Beginners

7. Stop beating yourself up

No matter where you are in your journey, you deserve to love and respect yourself. Do you criticize yourself a lot? If so, it’s time to let go of that habit. Here are 5 ways to stop beating yourself up.

8. Take more chances

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and do the same thing day in and day out. It’s also depressing! Taking chances (despite your fear) is a great way to build confidence and continue growing.

9. Improve your style

The first thing people notice about you is your clothes. Improving your style can have a huge impact on your feminine image! Check out Inside Out Style for tons of helpful fashion advice.

10. Get more sleep

Are you getting enough beauty sleep? If not, improving your sleep is one of the best improvements you can make for 2016. Here’s a fantastic free sleep improvement program from hypnotist Glenn Harold.

What are YOUR femme resolutions for 2016?

I’d love to hear about them, so please share in the comments below!

Love,
Lucille

What would you do if you had NO FEAR?

• Would you plan a fabulous femme outing?
• Would you share your feminine side with somebody important?
• Would you live as a woman full time, haters be damned?

We often have a million reasons why we can’t do something – whether it’s our age, our family obligations, or a lack of money – but the truth is, it usually boils down to FEAR.

Are you ready to be fearless? Here are my best tips for conquering your fear so you can express yourself as the fab female you truly are.

1. Accept your fear

What you resist persists. But when you accept your fear, it has a funny way of dissipating.

The thing is, our minds are wired to help us survive. Whenever you face an unknown situation – or risk facing disapproval from others – the default response is fear.

Accepting your fear as a built-in biological response also helps you realize that your fear is NOT a sign that you are weak or that you are NOT supposed to do something. (Note: I am not suggesting that you ignore fear when it comes to your physical safety. You should obviously use common sense when putting yourself out there.)

2. Replace your fear thoughts

Have you ever been afraid something terrible would happen … only it never happened? That’s because most fear comes from your thinking, not the reality of the situation.

It is not possible to think two thoughts at one – therefore, if you think a positive thought, it is literally impossible to think a negative or fearful thought at the same time.

Drowning out your fear thoughts with soothing thoughts can go a long way in helping you deal with your fear. Here are some thoughts to try:

• I deserve this.
• I’ve done harder things before.
• I am stronger than my fear.

3. Feel the fear and do it anyway

There is a book out there called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. I highly recommend you read the book, but the title alone is a great motto to live by.

The premise of the book is that the only way to get over a particular fear is to face your fear and DO IT. Then there is no longer anything to be afraid of! What a concept, huh?

Have you ever noticed that the more you avoid doing something, the scarier it seems? Avoiding something doesn’t make the fear go away … it only builds anticipation, which is usually worse than the actual event.

The more you face your fears and take action in spite of them, the stronger and more confident you become.

So what would YOU do if you had no fear? Are you willing to take one small step in that direction? As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below!

Love,
Lucille

P.S. I am going to be facing one of MY biggest fears ever by going SKYDIVING this month – eeek! Any girls here make the big leap? I’d love to hear any tips or words of encouragement you might have.

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