Did you realize that your HAIR is one of the first things people notice about you?

Unfortunately, there are some common hairstyle mistakes that could be preventing you from passing or blending in as a woman …

Here are the top 5 CD/TG hairstyle mistakes – and how to fix them!

1. Choosing the wrong hair color

If you wear a wig or dye your hair, choosing the right hair color is key. The wrong shade will wash you out and highlight the harsh angles of your face.

Rule #1 is to stay within 2 shades of your natural hair color. Most girls can’t pull off extreme shades like “Barbie” blonde or jet black.

Only Barbie can pull off this shade of blonde!	Jet black is too harsh for most people’s skin tones	Stay within 2 shades of your natural hair color

Rule #2 is to choose a hair color that compliments your skin tone.

First, identify whether you have a WARM or a COOL skin tone. (Hint: If the veins on your inner wrist appear blue, you have a cool skin tone. If they look green, you have a warm skin tone.)

If you have a cool skin tone, choose hair colors with a cool tone – like coffee brown, burgundy, or ash blonde. If you have a warm skin tone, opt for golden shades such as chestnut, auburn, or honey blonde.

COOL hair colors compliment cool skin tones	WARM hair colors compliment warm skin tones

2. Wearing the wrong hairstyle

The wrong hair hairstyle can throw off your entire appearance. Hairstyles that are too short, too long, or too angular have a masculinizing effect on your face.

Shoulder length cuts with soft waves or layers are most feminine and flattering. Soft bangs are also a must if you have a high forehead.

Long, straight, center-parted hair is too severe	Angular bobs emphasize the angles of your face	Soft waves and bangs are feminine and flattering

3. Showing off thinning hair or a receding hairline

While it’s great to grow out your own hair, make sure you have enough of it to show off!

I often see crossdressers and transgender women with thinning hair or receding hairlines. Slight hair loss might not be noticeable in guy mode, but it instantly reads as masculine in girl mode.

Hair loss treatments and hormones can help with hair regrowth, but in the meantime, wear a wig or hair piece. You could also rock a cute hat!

4. Wearing cheap or worn out wigs

If you’re going to wear a wig, invest in the best one you can afford. High quality human hair wigs cost hundreds (or even thousands) of dollars, but you can find synthetic wigs for much less.

No matter how much you spend, you want to look for SHINE and SOFTNESS. Wigs with dull, rough hair fibers scream “fake” from a mile away.

Also keep in mind that wigs have a limited life span. As soon as your wig starts to look dull or frizzy, it’s time to shop for a new one.

5. Wearing a wig too high or too low on your forehead

If you are new to wigs, it’s normal to be scared your wig is going to fall off. Your instinct might be to push the wig down, but the low-forehead look is NOT flattering. (Hello, Neanderthal!)

On the other hand, if the wig isn’t properly secured, it can creep up your forehead. That’s not pretty either.

Wig worn too low	Wig worn too high	Wig worn at natural hairline

To avoid slippage (and paranoia about your wig falling off), I suggest sewing wig clips to the inside of the wig. Wearing a wig cap or a wig grip can also help keep your wig in place.

Wig clips	Wig cap	Wig grip

Author: Lucille, Feminization Secrets

Don’t you just LOVE the feeling of being freshly shaved, waxed, plucked, etc.? There’s nothing like silky, smooth skin to make a gal feel extra girly!

Hair removal is essential to your feminine image, but it’s an area where a lot of transgender women go wrong …

Are you making any of these hair removal mistakes?

1. Not exfoliating

All forms of hair removal can cause ingrown hairs (particularly in the beard, chest, and pubic areas), but you can avoid them by exfoliating your skin 2-3 times per week. Exfoliation gets rid of dead skin cells that trap the hair under your skin.

Exfoliating too soon can irritate your skin, so wait a couple days and then scrub gently with a washcloth or loofah. (I love The Body Shop exfoliating skin towel.)

2. Not moisturizing

Dry skin is another cause of ingrown hairs, so it’s important to keep your skin moisturized. (Besides, you want soft, feminine skin, don’t you?)

The best moisturizer to use immediately after hair removal is pure aloe vera gel. Aloe vera is a natural moisturizer and skin soother. Perfumed lotions can irritate freshly shaved, waxed, or lasered skin, so avoid them for the first 24 hours.

3. Not treating ingrown hairs correctly

Exfoliating and moisturizing help prevent future ingrown hairs, but what about existing bumps?

Avoid the temptation to shave over ingrown hairs or dig for them with a needle – this can lead to infections and scarring. Instead, try an ingrown hair treatment such as Tend Skin, PFB Vanish, or Kalo Ingrown Hair Treatment.

4. Do-it-yourself hair removal (if you don’t know what you’re doing)

Professional waxing, electrolysis, and laser hair removal treatments are expensive, so it’s tempting to try them on your own. But be careful …

Newbie waxing mistakes – like waxing over the same area twice, pulling the hairs in different directions, or pulling too hard – can lead to rashes, bruises, and torn skin. Not a sexy look! If you insist on doing-it-yourself, get a couple professional waxing treatments first so you can observe proper technique.

Home laser and electrolysis kits aren’t as effective as professional systems, though girls have been reporting success with the No!No! Hair Removal System. The risk with these products is that they’re expensive and don’t always deliver results.

5. Bargain basement treatments

I’m all for beauty bargains, but don’t let price be your sole criteria when choosing a place for transgender hair removal treatments.

A cheap price tag often means a wax job with a bunch of stray hairs left behind or a patchy laser treatment. At worst, you could end up with burns or scars.

Check the qualifications of the person treating you and read the reviews on any place you are considering. Yelp is your friend!

Also, keep in mind that upscale places tend to put more emphasis on comfortable treatments. If you’re a waxing or laser wimp like me, it’s worth spending a bit more for a less painful experience.

What is YOUR favorite hair removal method? Are you a do-it-yourselfer or a pampered princess who loves her spa treatments? Take my hair removal poll below and leave me your comments below!

Love,
Lucille

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