“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.

But it is really a goal worth pursuing?

If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.

I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!

It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.

That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.

Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.

Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.

Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.

Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.

The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.

Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!

As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.

Now I’d love to hear from YOU!

Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!

Love,
Lucille

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Did you realize that your HAIR is one of the first things people notice about you?

Unfortunately, there are some common hairstyle mistakes that could be preventing you from passing or blending in as a woman …

Here are the top 5 CD/TG hairstyle mistakes – and how to fix them!

1. Choosing the wrong hair color

If you wear a wig or dye your hair, choosing the right hair color is key. The wrong shade will wash you out and highlight the harsh angles of your face.

Rule #1 is to stay within 2 shades of your natural hair color. Most girls can’t pull off extreme shades like “Barbie” blonde or jet black.

Only Barbie can pull off this shade of blonde!	Jet black is too harsh for most people’s skin tones	Stay within 2 shades of your natural hair color

Rule #2 is to choose a hair color that compliments your skin tone.

First, identify whether you have a WARM or a COOL skin tone. (Hint: If the veins on your inner wrist appear blue, you have a cool skin tone. If they look green, you have a warm skin tone.)

If you have a cool skin tone, choose hair colors with a cool tone – like coffee brown, burgundy, or ash blonde. If you have a warm skin tone, opt for golden shades such as chestnut, auburn, or honey blonde.

COOL hair colors compliment cool skin tones	WARM hair colors compliment warm skin tones

2. Wearing the wrong hairstyle

The wrong hair hairstyle can throw off your entire appearance. Hairstyles that are too short, too long, or too angular have a masculinizing effect on your face.

Shoulder length cuts with soft waves or layers are most feminine and flattering. Soft bangs are also a must if you have a high forehead.

Long, straight, center-parted hair is too severe	Angular bobs emphasize the angles of your face	Soft waves and bangs are feminine and flattering

3. Showing off thinning hair or a receding hairline

While it’s great to grow out your own hair, make sure you have enough of it to show off!

I often see crossdressers and transgender women with thinning hair or receding hairlines. Slight hair loss might not be noticeable in guy mode, but it instantly reads as masculine in girl mode.

Hair loss treatments and hormones can help with hair regrowth, but in the meantime, wear a wig or hair piece. You could also rock a cute hat!

4. Wearing cheap or worn out wigs

If you’re going to wear a wig, invest in the best one you can afford. High quality human hair wigs cost hundreds (or even thousands) of dollars, but you can find synthetic wigs for much less.

No matter how much you spend, you want to look for SHINE and SOFTNESS. Wigs with dull, rough hair fibers scream “fake” from a mile away.

Also keep in mind that wigs have a limited life span. As soon as your wig starts to look dull or frizzy, it’s time to shop for a new one.

5. Wearing a wig too high or too low on your forehead

If you are new to wigs, it’s normal to be scared your wig is going to fall off. Your instinct might be to push the wig down, but the low-forehead look is NOT flattering. (Hello, Neanderthal!)

On the other hand, if the wig isn’t properly secured, it can creep up your forehead. That’s not pretty either.

Wig worn too low	Wig worn too high	Wig worn at natural hairline

To avoid slippage (and paranoia about your wig falling off), I suggest sewing wig clips to the inside of the wig. Wearing a wig cap or a wig grip can also help keep your wig in place.

Wig clips	Wig cap	Wig grip

Author: Lucille, Feminization Secrets