Did you realize that your HAIR is one of the first things people notice about you?

Unfortunately, there are some common hairstyle mistakes that could be preventing you from passing or blending in as a woman …

Here are the top 5 CD/TG hairstyle mistakes – and how to fix them!

1. Choosing the wrong hair color

If you wear a wig or dye your hair, choosing the right hair color is key. The wrong shade will wash you out and highlight the harsh angles of your face.

Rule #1 is to stay within 2 shades of your natural hair color. Most girls can’t pull off extreme shades like “Barbie” blonde or jet black.

Only Barbie can pull off this shade of blonde!	Jet black is too harsh for most people’s skin tones	Stay within 2 shades of your natural hair color

Rule #2 is to choose a hair color that compliments your skin tone.

First, identify whether you have a WARM or a COOL skin tone. (Hint: If the veins on your inner wrist appear blue, you have a cool skin tone. If they look green, you have a warm skin tone.)

If you have a cool skin tone, choose hair colors with a cool tone – like coffee brown, burgundy, or ash blonde. If you have a warm skin tone, opt for golden shades such as chestnut, auburn, or honey blonde.

COOL hair colors compliment cool skin tones	WARM hair colors compliment warm skin tones

2. Wearing the wrong hairstyle

The wrong hair hairstyle can throw off your entire appearance. Hairstyles that are too short, too long, or too angular have a masculinizing effect on your face.

Shoulder length cuts with soft waves or layers are most feminine and flattering. Soft bangs are also a must if you have a high forehead.

Long, straight, center-parted hair is too severe	Angular bobs emphasize the angles of your face	Soft waves and bangs are feminine and flattering

3. Showing off thinning hair or a receding hairline

While it’s great to grow out your own hair, make sure you have enough of it to show off!

I often see crossdressers and transgender women with thinning hair or receding hairlines. Slight hair loss might not be noticeable in guy mode, but it instantly reads as masculine in girl mode.

Hair loss treatments and hormones can help with hair regrowth, but in the meantime, wear a wig or hair piece. You could also rock a cute hat!

4. Wearing cheap or worn out wigs

If you’re going to wear a wig, invest in the best one you can afford. High quality human hair wigs cost hundreds (or even thousands) of dollars, but you can find synthetic wigs for much less.

No matter how much you spend, you want to look for SHINE and SOFTNESS. Wigs with dull, rough hair fibers scream “fake” from a mile away.

Also keep in mind that wigs have a limited life span. As soon as your wig starts to look dull or frizzy, it’s time to shop for a new one.

5. Wearing a wig too high or too low on your forehead

If you are new to wigs, it’s normal to be scared your wig is going to fall off. Your instinct might be to push the wig down, but the low-forehead look is NOT flattering. (Hello, Neanderthal!)

On the other hand, if the wig isn’t properly secured, it can creep up your forehead. That’s not pretty either.

Wig worn too low	Wig worn too high	Wig worn at natural hairline

To avoid slippage (and paranoia about your wig falling off), I suggest sewing wig clips to the inside of the wig. Wearing a wig cap or a wig grip can also help keep your wig in place.

Wig clips	Wig cap	Wig grip

Author: Lucille, Feminization Secrets

I realize this might sound harsh, but I have to say it …

More often than not, when I am speaking with a TG woman, I feel like I am speaking with a MAN. It has nothing to do with the way she looks – or even the sound of her voice. It’s the WAY she communicates.

Learning how to communicate like a woman is important. If you look feminine but speak like a guy, you’re going to send mixed signals to people. You’ll also miss out on the chance to connect with GG’s on a true girl-to-girl level.

There are a lot of differences between male and female brains and this has a huge impact on transgender communication.

Here are some of the differences between guy-speak and girl-speak:

• Men tend to be more direct and task-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
• Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
• Women speak an average of 20,000 words per day vs. men who speak an average of 7,000 words per day.

Here are 3 way to feminize your communication:

1. Talk more

Studies show that women speak three times as much a men, so the first step towards feminine communication is to open your mouth – and keep it open!

If you’re one of those people who answers questions with one word, this might take some work. Practice expanding your answers and embellishing your stories with more details. What happened before, during, and after the event? Who else was involved? How did you feel about it? (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)

Note: This does not mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you also LISTEN to the person you are speaking with.

2. Feminize your vocabulary

If you’re going to talk more, you want to use the RIGHT words to express yourself. Men and women have different vocabularies, so it’s important to incorporate feminine words into your speech. For example:

• Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “sleeveless fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
• Men and women use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut” or “belly”, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy” or “abdomen”.

To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies and read women’s magazines. Look for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words into your vocabulary each week.

3. Ask more questions

Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell, rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.

Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Ask for more details or ask somebody how they felt about a particular situation. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated.

Remember, the POINT of feminine communication is to form relationships. Relationships are formed by becoming a better speaker AND listener.

Check out the video below for another good explanation on the differences between male and female communication.

As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk? Leave me your comments below!

Love,
Lucille

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