Body language counts for over 50% of what you are communicating, so this is a huge part of your feminine image.

Body language consists of:

1. Posture
2. Gestures
3. Facial expressions
4. Eye contact

I’m going to talk about posture in Part 1 of my “Feminine Body Language Secrets” series.

Here are the 3 biggest differences between the way men and women hold their bodies:

1. Open vs. closed

The #1 posture rule you need to remember is that women take up less space than men. This might seem obvious, but I’m amazed at many girls forget to keep their legs together and their elbows in. (Genetic girls, too!)

Open body positions are associated with the display of power. Besides making you look more passive and feminine, a closed body position makes you appear physically smaller.

2. Straight vs. curved

Sexy women are all about the curves, including the way they hold their bodies.

Next time you’re standing in line somewhere, notice how many women put their weight onto one leg, thrusting their hip out. This creates an S-shaped curve in the body. Notice how men tend to stand with their weight evenly spread over both feet.

You can create this S-curve with your body when you are sitting, too. Either cross your legs or put your weight onto one hip.

3. Weight forward vs. weight neutral

Have you ever noticed how many men lean forward at the shoulders – particularly if they are trying to establish their dominance? Contrast this to women, who tend to keep their shoulders back and their weight neutral.

Keeping your weight evenly balanced can be tricky in heels, so you need to be especially careful not to lean forward when you are standing or walking. (You shouldn’t lean back either – so get out those stilettos and practice, practice, practice!)

I’ll discuss gestures, facial expressions, and eye contact in my next blog post. But in the meantime, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this! What other subtle body language differences have you noticed between men and women?

Love,
Lucille

Feminization Secrets Blog

I hope your summer is off to a great start! I’m in Mexico enjoying some sun before heading back to chilly San Francisco.

I don’t know about you, but warm weather always inspires me to look my best …

Summer is a great time to be a girl, so here are 7 tips for looking extra SEXY this summer:

1. Get a pair of oversized sunglasses

Oversized sunglasses are trendy, sexy, and glamorous, but be sure to choose flattering frames. Most TG girls have angular features, so look for rounded frames to balance out your face.

2. Change your perfume

Changing your perfume is a great way to get into the mood for summer. Take a break from heavy, musky fragrances and choose something light and fruity for the summer. My current favs are Fresh Sugar Lemon, DKNY Be Delicious Fresh Blossom, and Marc Jacobs Daisy Eau So Fresh.

3. Try a colorful eyeliner

Colorful eyeliner is a big trend right now and it’s a perfect look for the summer. Try a touch of blue, green, or purple eyeliner on your upper or lower eyelids. (Avoid pink eye liner since it can make your eyes look tired.) Keep the rest of your makeup muted.

4. Go totally bare

There is nothing as sexy as smooth silky skin, so why not go totally bare and remove ALL your body hair for the summer? I guarantee you will feel VERY girly. You’ll also feel cooler and smell fresher – always nice for the feminine experience.

5. Highlight your hair

Nothing says summer like highlights, so add some highlights to your hair or pick up a highlighted wig. By the way, girls of all ethnicities can wear highlights. Auburn or chocolate highlights look fabulous with dark hair.

6. Get a spray tan

Suntans are sexy and make your body look thinner and more toned. But instead of frying in the sun or messing with self tanners, why not indulge in a spray tan from a salon? Spray tans cost $ 25-$ 50 and last about a week, so they’re a great thing to do before a special event or girly photo shoot.

7. Invest in a new dress

For my last tip, I am giving you permission to go shopping! A sexy new sundress is a great way to kick off the summer. Look for flowing, gathered styles to create the illusion of curves.

Now let’s hear from YOU! Do you have any special plans for the summer of 2011? What are YOU going to do to look extra sexy and girly this season?

Leave me your comments below!

Love,
Lucille

Feminization Secrets Blog