Do you feel guilty about crossdressing or being transgender? Sadly, many of “my girls” tell me that they do.

If you feel you have to lie or sneak around to keep your feminine side hidden, I can understand the conflict.

But let’s get one thing straight – there’s nothing wrong with crossdressing or being transgender. Period.

We live in a world with very defined gender roles. Unfortunately, these roles are even more rigid for males.

It’s OK for women to express their masculinity by dressing like tomboys or by acting strong and assertive. But if a guy looks or acts feminine, he’s labeled as weird, weak, or gay.

The underlying message is that it’s OK to be masculine (even if you’re a woman), but femininity is something to be ashamed of.

What the heck!?

Society is slowing changing, but the time to reject these outdated messages is NOW.

I think Iggy Pop said it best:

“I’m not ashamed to dress like a woman because I don’t think it’s shameful to be a woman.”

There’s no shame in changing your gender to match who you are on the inside either!

I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic…

Do you struggle with guilt or is it a non-issue for you? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?

Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!

Love,
Lucille

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Is your femme self a:

• Blonde?
• Brunette?
• Redhead?

Or maybe she’s a sexy silver fox instead?

I’ve been all of the above (except silver), and I literally felt like a different person with each hair color.

Changing your hair color doesn’t just change your look – it transforms your entire self image!

Your hair color also has a major impact on the way people perceive you.

What does your hair color say about your feminine self? Keep reading to find out!

Blonde

Candis Cayne – Transgender actress and performance artist

I’m a blonde, so what can I say? We DO have more fun!

Blonde hair is vibrant and attention-getting, but different tones send different signals:

• Warm shades (like golden blonde) give the impression of being warm, youthful, and feminine.

• Cool shades (like platinum blonde) give off more of a refined, classic vibe.

Brunette

Laverne Cox – Transgender actress and LGBT activist

Brunettes are perceived as intelligent, sophisticated, and seductive. How light or dark your hair is also makes a difference:

• Go for a light brown shade if you want to be seen as fun and flirty.

• Opt for dark brown or black if you want to appear more mysterious.

Redhead

Florencia De La V – Argentine transgender actress and TV personality

Only 2% of the world’s population is redhead, so red hair will definitely make you stand out.

Do you see yourself as fiery, passionate, and sexy? If so, you’re probably a redhead at heart!

Silver

Silver hair tells the world that you are a wise and sophisticated lady.

This can be a gorgeous, feminine hair color, especially when it’s shiny and well taken care of.

Which one are you?

Please take my poll and tell me why you love your hair color in the comments below!

Love,
Lucille

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