Putting on a dress and some lipstick aren’t the only ways to get into girl mode. (We women are more complex than that!) That’s why I wanted to go beyond the obvious and share 3 surprising ways to feel more feminine:

1. Lean back

I recently attended a teleclass hosted by my friend, relationship and intimacy coach Annie Lalla. One of the participants asked how she could feel more connected with her femininity. (Yes, genetic girls struggle with this, too! A lot of women have too much masculine energy and it drives guys away.)

Annie’s advice was to “lean back”. I LOVED this and thought it was also great advice for transgender women …

First, check your body. Are you leaning forward or leaning back? Leaning forward like you are poised for action is very masculine. Get into the habit of leaning back. When you are sitting down, imagine you are a queen leaning back in her throne. Feels good, doesn’t it?

Then, check your behavior. Are you one of those girls who pushes her way through life? If so, you need to “lean back” in your actions and in your conversations with others. Try less muscling and more allowing. “Leaning back” is a great metaphor for living from your feminine.

2. Try a different perfume

The right fragrance can connect you with your femininity like nothing else.

While it’s great to have a “signature scent,” don’t get stuck to an old perfume. Since scent is strongly linked to memories, your current perfume might be bringing you back to a time that doesn’t represent who you are now.

If so, it’s time to go shopping! Look for a perfume that matches the qualities you want to express. Think floral scents if you want to express your romantic side and oriental or woody scents if you want to bring out your inner seductress.

3. Smile

Ok, hear me out before you dismiss this last tip as a cheesy platitude. There are loads of reasons why smiling is a fabulous beauty and femininity booster:

• Smiling releases endorphins in the brain that boost your mood.
• Smiling lifts your cheeks and gives you a natural facelift.
• Smiling makes other people happy.
• Smiling makes you look more feminine.

The last point is especially interesting. According to a Japanese study, smiling faces are rated as more feminine than serious faces. That’s because women and girls smile more frequently than boys and men.

There is an art to smiling, so practice in front of a mirror until you find your best smile. (Try big and small smiles and smiling with your mouth open and closed.) Then work that feminine smile as often as you can!

So, girlfriend, what are YOUR favorite ways to feel more feminine? You know I love a good discussion, so leave me your comments below!

Love,
Lucille

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I confess: I have a foot fetish …

No, not THAT kind of foot fetish! I mean, I am obsessed with having beautiful feet and I think you should be too!

Feet take a lot of abuse and a lot of girls neglect their feet. But well-cared for feet can be one of the most beautiful and feminine parts of your body.

According to reflexology (a healing method based on foot stimulation), the feet are the largest energy center in the body. Feet have over 7,000 nerve endings, so they are very sensual – and thus, can be a powerful way to connect with your femininity.

Here are my top 4 tips for beautifying and feminizing your feet:

1. Get a professional pedicure

You can give yourself a pedicure at home, but I recommend going to a salon for a pampering experience. It’s VERY worth the $ 20-$ 50 you’ll spend for a professional pedicure.

It’s easier to maintain pretty feet at home after you’ve let a professional get rid of your calluses, trim your cuticles, and reshape your nails. Lots of guys get pedicures with clear nail polish, so don’t feel shy about going to the salon in male mode.

2. Stop stinky feet

It’s hard to feel sexy and sensual if you have stinky feet! The main cause of foot odor is sweat, so here are a few tips for controlling sweaty, stinky feet:

• Try using a heavy duty antiperspirant like Maxim on your feet.
• Take your shoes off when you are at home to let your feet breath.
• Wear cotton socks instead of polyester or nylon socks.
• Put some baking soda in your shoes. Sodium bicarbonate helps control the bacteria that causes foot odor.

3. Get rid of foot hair

I’m always surprised to see how many girls (including genetic girls!) neglect to remove the hair from their feet. Eew! Please don’t forget to shave or wax your feet and toes on a regular basis.

4. Try nail art on your toes

Your feet are a great place to express your femininity since you can cover them up if you have to. So go crazy and have some fun with colorful nail polishes and nail art!

I’m a big fan of Sally Hansen Salon Effects Nail Polish Strips. These are dry press on nail polish strips that come in all kinds of fun designs. If your toenails aren’t too big, you can use them on your feet!

I hope these tips inspire you to take good care of your feet. I’d love to see the results, so post your pretty feet photos and comments below! (Just keep it G-rated. No actual foot fetish photos, please – LOL!)

Love,
Lucille

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